I am not feeling happy. This probably is not the statement you would expect from the author of Happy Abroad project. But it’ true. I am also a human being, and these would be lies if I said that I feel happy every single day. No, I am not. I do feel happy most of the days, but still there are some moments, like now, when I am feeling down. The difference here is that even when I am in that low mood, I know that this won’t last forever and it depends only on me (in your case on you), how long it would last. You can make things better or worse.
So what can you do when you are not feeling happy abroad?
- Reasons: think about it, what exactly makes you feeling unhappy? Often the answer is “everything”, but even in this case, get into details, and even better – write them down. You have to understand why you are feeling unhappy and what can you do about it. First concentrate on WHY, on later stage you can start thinking WHAT can you do about it.
- Goals: check, what are your goals for your life abroad? Are they still valid? If so, then think about what can you do to fulfill them. Or may be they have came true and you did not set new ones? Or it could be you have got a different outcome, than you expected (like it was in my case)?
- Let the negative emotions out: allow yourself to feel unhappy, cry, let it go. But know your limits. In the best case scenario, give yourself certain period of time, for example 1 hour, 1 day etc, during which you “allow” yourself to feel unhappy. Feel it. But then be strict with yourself, when time has finished stop. Do not know how to stop? Think BANANA! Yes, every time when negative thought comes to your mind change it with a picture of smiley yellow banana 🙂
- Ask: ask for help, if you feel that someone can help you. Do not complain, just explain the situation. May be there is a solution you have never thought of?
- What makes you happy: do it, whether it is your favourite film, piece of cake or walk in the park. Forget about restrictions. Treat yourself, as nobody will treat you better than you do.
- Music: listen to your favourite !positive! song. It won’t work if your favourite song is “Do not break my heart” by Tony Braxton. Choose a good one, which makes you smile, laugh and jump from happiness. Lately song by Georgia “Tu mi porti su” helped me a lot, it changes my mood by 180C, even though if you listen carefully to the words, it might not super positive, but it is funny and makes me smile and feel happy. (Please, write in comments, which song makes you happy – may be it will help to someone less to get out of “unhappy” mood :))
- Up: to get to the next level of development (in whichever sphere), you have to go very low first. It’s like a jump: before you jump high, you sit down a little bit. So accept that this your situation is a preparation for the great things (or you can see it like a foundation for a house: first you have to dig a hole, then build foundation and then there will be house. Situation when you feel yourself unhappy – is hole digging).
- Keep yourself busy: do not give yourself too much spare time to think, keep yourself busy: work, study hard, fill in your diary with the meetings, during free time meet your friends, organise events, go to gatherings. This will keep you away from negative thoughts and actually will help to change mind and thinking. Here is important to meet ‘positive’ people, who will inspire you, rather than will feel ‘pity’ for you. Pity does not help.
- Wishes: now, when all the negativity has gone, think about what do you WANT. How do you see your ideal life? What are your wishes? Remember the rule of attraction: thoughts + action = result, thus in order to have positive result you have to think positively (i.e. what you WANT, rather what you DO NOT want) + ACT!